The Art of Marriage

A good marriage must be created.  In the Art of Marriage the little things are the big things!  It is never being too old to hold hands.  It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.  It is never going to sleep angry.  It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.  It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.  It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.  It is having the capacity to forgive and to forget.  It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.  It’s finding room for the things of the spirit.  It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.  It is not only marrying the right partner… It is being the right partner.

The Love You Share

May your love be like the ocean
Ever peaceful and carefree
May your fondness and devotion
Last throughout eternity
May your dreams be like a feather
Made to float upon the air
As you spend this life together
Bound within the love you share.

May your love be like a beacon
Serving as your blessed guide
May your spirit never weaken
As you pass each test in stride
May your memories be measured
By the years that you shall see
And the tidings ever treasured
That shall form your legacy.

May your love be like the glory
In the sun’s rich morning rays
May your visions write a story
To rest in your hearts, always
So that every day you borrow
Shall be free from all despair
As you face each new tomorrow
Bound within the love you share.
© 2005 – Jill Eisnaugle’s Poetry Collection

The Key to Love

The Key to love is Understanding… The ability to comprehend not only the spoken word but those unspoken gestures; the little things that say so much by themselves.

The Key to love is Forgiveness… To accept each others faults and pardon mistakes without forgetting but with remembering what you learned from them.

The Key to love is Sharing… Facing your good fortunes as well as the bad together; both conquering problems and to forever search for ways to intensify your happiness.

The Key to love is Giving… Without the thought of return but with the hope of just a simple smile and by giving in but never giving up.

The Key to love is Respect… Realizing that you are two separate people with different ideas; that you don’t belong to each other, that you belong with each other and share a mutual bond.

The Key to Love is inside us all… It takes time and patience to unlock all the ingredients that will take you to its threshold; it is the continual learning process that demands a lot of work… And that is The Key to Love!

Why Marriage?

Because to the depths of me, I long to love one person, with all my heart, my soul, my mind, and my body…
Because I need a forever friend to trust with the intimacies of me, who won’t hold them against me, who loves me when I’m unlikable, who sees the small child in me, and looks for the divine potential of me…
Because I need to cuddle in the warmth of the night with someone who is thankful, with someone I feel blessed to hold…
Because marriage means opportunity to grow in love in friendship…
Because marriage is a discipline to be added to a list of achievements…
Because marriages do not fail, people fail when they enter into marriage expecting another to make them whole…
Because knowing this, I promise myself to take full responsibility for my spiritual, mental and physical wholeness…
I create me, I take half of the responsibility for my marriage, and together we create our marriage…
Because with this understanding the possibilities are limitless.

– Mari Nichols-Haining, 1995.

It Comes From the Heart

It’s the kiss goodnight
Whether you know it or not.
The time we spend, together or apart
Our bond we share gives more each day.
It’s a learning curve that is paved along the way.

And, it comes from the heart!
Our time in this life is time to be shared
Together we can build happiness uncompared.
From the love in your touch, or the concern on your face,
It demands the attention of all time and space.
And, it comes from the heart!

Memories are made through moments in life,
And each one with you, makes the path more precise.
Your love for me, makes me a better man.
It’s that love that you will have until the end.
And, it comes from the heart!

By James Robert Lillard
November 24, 2006

Beyond Words

They say they will love, comfort, honor each other to the end of their days.  They say they will cherish each other and be faithful to each other always.  They say they will do these things not just when they feel like it, but even- for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health – when they don’t feel like it at all.

 In other words, the vows they make could hardly be more extravagant.  They give away their freedom. They take on themselves each others burdens. They bind their lives together… The question is, what do they get in return?

They get each other in return… There will always be the other to talk to, to listen to… There is still someone to get through the night with, to wake into the new day beside.

If they  have children, they can give them, as well as each other, roots and wings.  If they don’t have children, they each become the other’s child.

They both still have their lives apart as well as a life together.  They both still have their separate ways to find. 

But a marriage made in heaven is one where a man and a woman become more richly themselves together than the chances are either of them could ever have managed to become alone.